New Online Presence

I am very excited to offer a free online presence that will keep you updated with all of the latest information I have discovered on the Mind-Body connection and how to free yourself from pain and limitation.

I offer a 15 minute, weekly Facebook Live every Monday at 5:30pm in a private community where you can explore different areas of the body and items of interest as they relate to pain and healing.

"Free the Wisdom to Heal the Body" 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/530719624779307/

In addition on Facebook I offer Masterclasses and and free monthly live coaching sessions in the private group for the first few people who comment.

 

Many (but not all) of these videos will also be available on my new Youtube channel.

"Thoughtpaintherapy" 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3NH-xuu0SEw0wmbWLBt8iQ

 

Several of these live offerings will also have their transcripts posted below in my blog for you to read. 

 

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1/10/22 Mind Body Monday: Forgiveness (part 1)                                            

So, why forgiveness as a topic today? Well, When I began my practice in Body Mind healing I remember the first quote I learned which comes from Eastern medicine, was: “Show me a body wherein lies disease, and I will show you a body wherein lies unforgiveness.”

I have seen this made manifest in every person I have ever worked with. If you google health and forgiveness you will see a number of corresponding statements, in fact John Hopkins Medicine has a quote on their website that simply states, “Forgiveness: Your health depends on it.” It goes on to say that studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health, lowering the risk of heart attack; improving cholesterol levels and sleep, and reducing pain, blood pressure and levels of anxiety, depression and stress.

So, in every facet of the mind, emotions and body, forgiveness helps us heal.

In the field of Psychology there is a dynamic referred to as a “fundamental attribution error”. It is based on the generalizations we make about a person’s quality of character and/or their motivations. It is referred to as “state vs trait dynamic”, and without our awareness it can lead to numerous reasons why we might be unforgiving of people in our lives. I begin this chapter diving in to this someone complex theory, because I think it holds a subconscious yet substantial grip on our minds, thus our words, then our deeds and ultimately our health and our lives.

So, thank you for your patience as we begin. I assure you I will make this make sense, and you will be grateful if somewhat abashed to learn about it, as I was. As simply as possible, State vs Trait means that we perceive our own mistakes and errors of judgement or inappropriate social behavior, as being due to a particular and unusual state of being at a specific moment in time. However, we tend to attribute the behaviors and errors of others to a characteristic pattern of thinking, or a flawed personality trait.              Thus, we can excuse our own mistakes and misdeeds while we hold on to those of others with a sometimes iron fist of unforgiveness. Does this make sense? As an example, let’s say someone cuts you off in a grocery line or on the road, you would think they were clearly a very rude and inconsiderate person. However, if we were to do the exact same thing and someone pointed it out to us, we would explain to them the reason for the behavior was motivated by whatever was going on with us in the time. Certainly, not a personality trait of ours. In other words, we were late for work and afraid we would get written up. Or we’d left our kids were in the car, because we were sure it wouldn’t take more than 5 minutes if we did it ourselves, and 30 or more if we brought them in and had to deal with them. Or maybe we didn’t think the person in front of us had made up their minds, or all of the above, etc.. Thus, our mistakes are excusable, understandable, if given have a change to explain, certainly people would be forgiving, but, we do not apply the same mentality to those around us. We generally do not have the cognitive load or brain power to consider a myriad of reasons why someone would be rude to us. It is simply easier to just think of them as rude people. You might of heard the phrase people only ever consider themselves, Victors or Victims, never Villains. I think this is one of the primary reasons why. We don’t consider ourselves villains because we have excuses and reasons for everything we do in our lives and thus can often walk away from a confrontation with someone feeling righteous in our anger or our upset. Our understanding of the motivations of others and application of compassionate grace would take far more time and knowledge then we often have. Thus, “they” are the villains of our stories. Because we attribute our own behavior as due to our current temporary “state” and theirs to the personality “traits” they have. But the truth is we simply don’t know the reasoning behind the acts of others and are thus less likely to find their inconsiderate behaviors forgivable. Now you may be thinking, okay perhaps this excuses the women at the grocery store who cut in line, or the man on the freeway who cut us off, or the rude remark or the callous disregarding look, or any other small and temporary insult we feel we are subjected to on a daily basis when we have to deal with other people. But does it forgive the larger insults and injuries that we store away in our hearts to bring out and nourish and nurture in our confusion and our pain? No, but it is the beginning. When we start looking at everyone around us as people that are suffering for things we may never know, we begin to feel more compassionate. Maybe that mother that staring at her phone in a restaurant, and letting her children act out is not selfish or uncaring, but rather inwardly processing a deep grief that she cannot show them. Maybe that man that throws up a finger or mouths an insult as he cuts us off, is terribly afraid that he will not arrive somewhere in time to prevent a perceived emotional tragedy, and our momentary inattention reminds him of other people who seem not to care about the world around them. Let me assure you that whether or not it is clear, everyone you will ever meet is suffering in a way you will never know. We are all desperately afraid of something. We are all grieving something that we often cannot even fully acknowledge.  We are all distracted by our worries. We are all depressed about the past we cannot change, and we are all afraid of the future we cannot name. We are all reacting out of trauma rather than responding out of rationality, more times that we could possibly want to acknowledge.

By coming to this awareness, we can stop reacting out of own victimhood and making others into villains. Instead, we can look around at those that annoy us as sisters and brothers of courage as they seek to make something matter of their lives, just like us. By shifting our thoughts to compassion we shift our words, we shift our deeds, we shift our habits, we change our health and our lives. And slowly, and often subtlety these small compassionate forgivenesses of simple everyday mistakes, become a way of thinking, a way of allowing, and a way of forgiving. A way of life. Of looking at every time we felt ill-used, or put-upon, these feelings were in fact the result of someone else’s trauma, or someone else’s “state” of being. Then we begin to apply this everyday forgiveness to our lives, and our past. We stop applying a lens of self-innocence or a caricature of some callous villain to those that we feel wounded by.  Of course, it doesn’t feel natural at first. If we have nursed these wounds into reasons, it becomes even harder. By that I mean, if we have claimed consciously or subconsciously that we are who we are (generally in the ways we don’t like) because of the actions of someone else, why it is much harder to forgive.  We would have to rewrite at least a part of our story at that point. We would have to give up being a victim and claim our freedom and independence. Because that is the true gift of forgiveness. We get to release them from our minds and hearts. Release them from our reasons and excuses. And when we begin to let others off the hook of our pain, then next comes ourselves.

1/3/22 Mind Body Monday: Manifestation and Magic

 

As we begin another year, I wanted to make my first live about Manifestation and Magic, because while we are always seeking to improve our lives, at the very beginning of the year it has a magical force greater than throughout the rest of the year, which is why we make resolutions!

 

So to begin today, I want you to consider this thought,

"Each day we are presented with two choices. Repeat or Evolve."

To repeat the choices and experiences of our lives we have to do nothing, but continue to think the same thoughts about it, that we always have. However, to change our lives we must work to transform our lives, from what we fear to what we want. This may seem obvious and easy at first, but it truly takes work! We have to learn how to not continue on the same negative pathways of belief that got us to the experiences we regret that we are even now living. Psychologists theorize that on average a person thinks over 1600 negative thoughts in any given day. We have to master these thoughts and master our

minds to think instead about what we want to create instead of ruminating on the present experiences that we do not want. Does this make sense?

 

So to begin this creation for what I call : “My Most Fulfilling Year Ever” I want you to get a piece of paper and a pen, or your computer and write out the following as headings at the top. You will be addressing each one separately, Ready:

 

Health and Body

Career and Work

Money and Abundance

Relationships and Love

Personal Desires

Material things

 

After my live today I want you to sit down and write about what you want IN DEPTH! Don’t be afraid to put it too much detail. The more you describe your desires the more your imagination comes alive, the more it moves from a thought to a feeling, and that, Ladies and Gentlemen is where the Magic starts.

 

Before we can create, we must get a clear vision on what it is we want. And that vision MUST be believable to us. It must contain the seeds of possibility. If you are consciously or unconsciously sneering at the thoughts you are having, then not only will they not be possible, but they will drag you down and out of the entire process. Think of quotes you might of heard to describe this process. Have

you heard of any of these?

 

We need to visualize to actualize…. Whether you believe you can or believe you can’t, you are right… You must dream it to become it….What you think, you create… Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it….Thoughts become things…If you want to know what you are thinking, look at your life…there are so many… and yet, we still struggle. One of absolute favorites is: You Manifest what You Believe, Not what you want.

 

So with that said, If better health or body view is your goal then I want you to start thinking about what is the grandest version of the greatest vision you have about what your health and body would feel and look like. How would it move, how would it feel to be inside of it. What could you do in it that you cannot do know the way you want. What would it look like. Touch your body as you think about it and write about it. Send it love. I know You have heard me say that you cannot heal what you don’t love before now, at it is true. If you hate your body, hate your health, hate what you see as your disability or your inability. How could you possible manifest through that hatred? You can’t. So, lets say that you have a stick and on one end is your self-loathing or fear that you will never change and heal. Then on the other end is your Agape. Your unconditional love. Your complete trust and faith that miracles, magic and manifestation can happen. Now imagine if this stick was a foot long, where you would be in inches towards your goal. I am not asking you to grab the other end, but you must be willing to work towards it. Does this make sense? While you cannot manifest from fear and pain, you can from

gratitude and hope.

 

So as you write about what your body would feel like and how it would move, behave, act. And as you write what you could accomplish, and what it would look like, or what it would weigh, or what you could wear, Again, be honest with yourself and your beliefs. You can always move from whatever you are hoping to accomplish today, to something else when you have accomplished that. If your ultimate goal is to walk 10 miles a day, then visualize yourself walking every single day. If walking brings you pain, then see what begins as short walks around your home being possible and enjoyable. See yourself smiling and proud, and most important….

 

Be Grateful for it! Manifestation and magic come from 5 things being in alignment:

 

Manifestation:

Thoughts

Beliefs

Words

Actions

AND THE FINAL MUST HAVE: Gratitude

 

As you make a list of what you want to manifest, going in to great depth as I have described, after each item I want you to sit in the FEELING of HAVING IT OCCUR and THE GRATITUDE you would feel. Then and only then go on to the next category if you wish too manifest in many areas of your life.


Now, what if you try, and surprise yourself that you cannot fell what I have described. You cannot feel belief, you cannot feel gratitude. Well, If you can’t feel it, then acknowledge to yourself that you are not ready in this moment, to have it, and that’s okay too. Perhaps you subconsciously feel you don’t deserve it? Perhaps you feel having your desire made manifest would change your life in ways that you wouldn’t actually want?

 

I know these are hard thoughts and concepts, but if you REALLY want to manifest your goals, then you must be completely honest with yourself. If you cannot believe in one of your dreams, then please, don’t criticize yourself. As an example.. Maybe you cannot honestly believe you will ever be out of pain, or the weight you have wanted, or be free from disease. Maybe you WANT it tremendously, but as I quoted before.. You manifest what you believe, not what you want. So if you come to this challenge, then I want you to do one of two things. AND both without judgement.

Move on to something you can believe in, and write in depth about that.. or

Go into a 10 minute meditation or prayer and listen for the hidden truth about your block. Repeat as often as necessary until you receive an answer that helps you decide HOW to write about it and WHAT you do believe.

 

Okay, so now that you have completed this in depth, slowly, consciously, deliberately, honestly and with gratitude. See how you can abbreviate it if at all possible.

Take the core of your discovery and make it into a single sentence, a slogan or a word. Something that when you say it, you FEEL it and all the beliefs you wrote about it. Then write that word, phrase, slogan etc. down on a piece of paper or a mini journal, and date it. When you receive your goal you will write a date on it, with the words: Thank You. I recommend you carry it with you as often as possible. Look at it and dream of it and feel gratitude that it has already begun energetically in the collective creative consciousness. Even you couldn't stop it now. It is inevitable. Do you feel it? Don't let yourself say anything more that could be conceived as disbelieving or ungrateful. Instead Say thank you every time.

 

In fact, to quote the book, "Magic" by Rhonda Byrne: 

 

"Think and say the magic words, thank you. (in advance of your miracle or manifestation)

The more you deliberately think and say the magic words, thank you, the more gratitude you feel.

The more gratitude you deliberately think and feel, the more abundance you receive.

Gratitude is a feeling so the ultimate aim is to deliberately feel it as much as you can.

Gratitude is a feeling. So the ultimate aim in practicing gratitude is to deliberately feel it as much as you can, because it's the force of your feeling that accelerates the magic in your life. Newton's law is one for one - what you give you receive, equally. That means that if you increase your feeling of gratitude, the results in your life will exp;and to be equal to your feeling! The truer the feeling , the more sincerely grateful you are, the faster your life will change."

 

(Visual)Now here are some of my Gratitude journals. I have been keeping one for at least the past 15 years or more, and the only things I haven’t manifested are things that I myself have stood in the way of. So, why do we stand in our own way? I believe the top three obstacles are:

 

Worry

Fear

Inequality

 

Let me elaborate a little more to give you a broader perspective than just the words alone.

 

Worry: affects us in the HOW of manifestation. We think we must be able to know HOW we will get what we want. Well, I want you to set that aside for this new year. Don’t even give a moment’s thought to HOW, because if you do then it is likely you will be trapped in the monkey mind of overthinking and analyzing and erasing the magic that is possible. Listen to me please…It is not necessary for you to figure out how you are going to get the money to move to a nicer place. Just imagine that it is not only possible, but also probable. Don’t worry about how you are going to send your kids to college. Instead, just imagine the college they will go to, where they will live, and what classes they will take, until you can not only see it but feel it inside of yourself. Leave the how for the universe to show you. Just rest in the gratitude of acceptance and joy.

 

Now Fear: it affects us in the EXPECTATIONS we have of manifesting our dreams. How will it affect our lives, our jobs, our friends, our family, our loved ones. Will people see our success in creation and be jealous, envious, resentful, or perhaps even withdraw support or love we have become used to and desire to keep in our lives. As an example, if we have been injured or ill and perhaps someone we desire to feel closer to is taking of us. We

 

could be afraid if we get better, then maybe they won't care for us in the same way they have. Or maybe they will expect or ask for things from us that we don't have the desire or energy to give. We could in a case like this be unsurprised that we have difficulty manifesting wellness.

 

Inequality: affects us in the worthiness department. Why do we deserve that new car, when there are homeless people living down the street from us? When we focus on inequality we become trapped by the belief that for us to have something then we have to be more worthy than someone else, and how can we possibly know or judge that? I want you to realize that to receive what you want in life is okay, in fact its better than okay. It is warranted, and intentional and beautiful and the reason you are here. Even if other people do not have things, even if those you love do not live lives that they are happy with. Even if your partner is poor, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be rich. Manifest greater health and abundance so you can share these things with whomever you like. Or just rest in the gratitude of receiving and let it fill your heart and mind, until you cannot help but live from that space. You might be unsurprised that the natural consequence of living in a space of constant gratitude makes it automatic that you wish to share your love and happiness and abundance all around, because YOU HAVE ENOUGH. YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE WORTHY. In fact it is YOU that is the magic itself.

 

And so I leave you with one last thought for today.

 

 

We cannot evolve without becoming present in both the body and the mind. We cannot become present until we stop seeking the distractions of the past and the future. We have to choose to become at home in the sacred space of our minds, our emotions and our physical beings.

 

Create time in every day to set aside all the things and find time for stillness, acceptance and gratitude. I begin every day hearing the words: "Everything is Always Working Out for me." And I believe it. I believe our lives are meant to be wonderful, and I am so very grateful!

 

Thank you. Thank you for joining me today. For listening and opening your hearts and minds to create miracles.

 

Inspirational Quotes:

Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attractions.

-Albert Einstein

"We say, "I have done nothing today."  Really? Have you not lived?  Is this not only the most fundamental but the most illustrious of your occupations? Have you been able to think about and manage your life today?  If so, you have managed the greatest burden of all. To compose our nature is our responsibility, not to write books. To gain order and tranquility, not to win battles and provinces, is our goal. Our grand and glorious masterpiece is to live suitably."
                 --- Michel de Montaigne

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet.  Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved."
                                          --- Helen Keller
All this joy; All this sorrow;
All this promise; All this pain...
Such is life.  Such is being.
Such is Spirit.  Such is Love.
-John Denver
There is no need to run outside for better seeing, nor to peer from a window. 
Rather abide at the center of your being; for the more you leave it, the less you learn. 
Search your heart and see if he is wise who takes each turn:
The way to do is to be.

-Lao-Tsu

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